I don't understand the outcry against teen pregnancy. After entering my 40's and having a child, the logic of the teenage mother is suddenly crystal clear.
There are the obvious reasons a teenager should be a mom - like the fact that their bodies will bounce back much more easily. And their high expendable incomes and valuable life experience. But I think the most obvious reason for teenage moms is the sleep factor.
When I was in high school, particularly in my sophomore year - I literally slept no more than 3 hours every night. Between sneaking out of the house every night (it's OK my mom has finally accepted this) and getting up at 5:30am for seminary, there just wasn't much. And I feel I was pretty consistently high functioning. Not because of my grades, but because of how effective and lively I was socially. Obv.
I just didn't need sleep.
Now I'm 42. Every night that passes with less than my requisite 7 hours of beauty sleep, and that actually comes much closer to 3 hours makes me more of a crazed, literally certifiable, looks-like-a-homeless-person human being. I cry. I can't talk to people without becoming angered. I say things I wish never came out of my mouth. But sometimes I'm also really, horribly glad they did. See? Twisted.
I'm glad I had a baby. And I'm glad that I did it at my age - which by the way, the obgyn told me is now classified as "elderly mother" and not the kinder "mature mother" - because it has helped me see the light. To become less judge-y and more accepting.
16 year olds getting pregnant? God bless them. They're smarter than we think. Now excuse me while I try to sneak in some beauty rest during my daughter's 15 minute "long" nap.
There are the obvious reasons a teenager should be a mom - like the fact that their bodies will bounce back much more easily. And their high expendable incomes and valuable life experience. But I think the most obvious reason for teenage moms is the sleep factor.
When I was in high school, particularly in my sophomore year - I literally slept no more than 3 hours every night. Between sneaking out of the house every night (it's OK my mom has finally accepted this) and getting up at 5:30am for seminary, there just wasn't much. And I feel I was pretty consistently high functioning. Not because of my grades, but because of how effective and lively I was socially. Obv.
I just didn't need sleep.
Now I'm 42. Every night that passes with less than my requisite 7 hours of beauty sleep, and that actually comes much closer to 3 hours makes me more of a crazed, literally certifiable, looks-like-a-homeless-person human being. I cry. I can't talk to people without becoming angered. I say things I wish never came out of my mouth. But sometimes I'm also really, horribly glad they did. See? Twisted.
I'm glad I had a baby. And I'm glad that I did it at my age - which by the way, the obgyn told me is now classified as "elderly mother" and not the kinder "mature mother" - because it has helped me see the light. To become less judge-y and more accepting.
16 year olds getting pregnant? God bless them. They're smarter than we think. Now excuse me while I try to sneak in some beauty rest during my daughter's 15 minute "long" nap.
you are hilarious. I love your posts. But, I can see the logic in your statements. Having been in my 30's having my children I have also thought about how much easier it would have been in my 20's and yes, as a teen! But girl, your body has bounced back.. You look fabulous.
ReplyDeleteAw, shucks. Thanks! :)
Deletethe biggest mistake i ever made was not getting knocked up in high school. i'll try and teach my children from my mistakes. :)
ReplyDeleteI know you will. What a good mom you'll be. :)
DeleteHilarious. Love you!
ReplyDeleteOh Shauri, I feel for you. One day you are going to wake up and joyfully realize that she slept through the night and you actually got more than 3 consecutive hours of sleep and you are going to feel like a new woman! :)
ReplyDeleteA dream I no longer imagine. :) One day. We'll see.
DeleteI love this post! Cracks me up! You crack me up, Shauri! But I'm also laughing at the other comments! You girls are hilarious! I love how Kathryn is going to teach her children from her "mistakes." I have thought the same thing, though! Man, this would be so much easier the younger you are, especially as a teen, in terms of the energy factor! But, as Robin said, you DO look fabulous! You'll rest again. Maybe. In 18 years. :) Btw, be grateful you have James. (I'm sure you already are.) Doing it alone- single mom- is SO tiring!
ReplyDeleteJennica - I saw on FB you were going through a divorce and I'm so sorry that must be really hard. And yes, I completely empathize with all single moms. I did it for just 5 days at home and I thought I would lose my mind and die. Here it sometimes feels like you're a single mom when James works until bed time and leaves in the morning, but we're strong women - we will survive! :)
Deleteshauri, sounds like my journal entries from my last 2 babies. and i wasn't even 42. close enough, though. i stopped talking to my other friends having babies because apparently, their babes were "angels" and sleeping through the night, and so sweet-natured. Mine were none of the above. I loved them in moments, but for many months, there were many tears. Hang in there, sister. And, if it helps, by the age of 2, my babies became sweet toddlers. No joke. A ray of hope for ya. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you understand. It is comforting when you realize you aren't the only one with a crazy baby and that someone else gets that it's about 10x harder than a "normal" baby. Nicol came to visit before we left and her baby just laid there by herself. NO CRYING. NO ATTENTION NEEDED. I was shocked. I didn't know babies did that. Sigh. I wish that your 2 year mark gave me hope, but I was hoping for more like 4 months. Ah, well. Love you jules- hope you're happy and well.
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